I posted this on Facebook a little while ago
in response to a word a friend of long standing used
to describe a feeling I had shared.
It was a feeling I thought I could relate to her, confident she would fully understand.
She told me I was being "dramatic."
That was the word that told me she did not care
how I felt or how upset I was by the situation.
I have deleted her.
I do not need unsupportive people in my life.
The interesting thing is, she responded to my post on the defensive.
I guess she recognized herself, although I did not allude to anyone in particular. And perhaps she was referring to the other content of the conversation,
not realizing that her "one word" was what hurt me.
I have shared the ups and downs of her family life for over 35 years and tried to support her whenever I could. With one word she has shown me my friendship and love were misplaced, and my heart-wrenching situations were negligible in her mind.
Don't do that to your friends. Measure your words.
Don't utter what you are thinking without realizing the cost.